Postpartum Depression

Screen_Shot_2015-02-16_at_3.59.05_PM.pngThe more I hear women talk about their postpartum period, the more I understand the extent of postpartum depression - it's omnipresent, but basically, unrecognized and untreated, unless a woman is displaying some really crazy behaviors. To summarize - those few women who manage escaping it are the proverbial 'exception to the rule', that does not cancel the actual 'rule', but, in fact, confirms it. Seems like it is rampant in any economic, ethnic, or geographical group - it is time to start  doing something about it, to shift the social status of this condition. Let's talk about it, ladies! Because what I'm seeing is that we have identified here the core social problem - generations of humans raised by mothers who were desperately fighting their depression in a complete vacuum, alone, - not being able to name it, ask for help and receive an efficient support,- emotional, nutritional, spiritual, and of course, somebody needs to do the dishes :)  Doctors, unfortunately, are not helpful with dishes. Going with that problem to a doctor will result in a medication that does not have a good track record.

I always thought that a good birth and a helpful partner is a sure guarantee that postpartum depression won't happen. But now with the cumulative amount of stories I've heard from all over the world, even from women with very supportive partners, - most of them went through a severe loss of identity, too... I'm not a doctor or a professional psychologist, never claimed to be. I am a passionate advocate for a better humankind with a strong common sense. And that includes talking to a lot of people.

 

Again, I did meet a few women who had an easy-breezy postpartum period, and yes, they had wonderful births and very present, supportive partners,- it is something they all shared. But then, again, a few women who had similar circumstances, still got the blues, even though it was manageable and short.  The big problem is with postpartum depression for women who are in less desirable dynamic with the fathers of their babies or/and had traumatic delivery. Which means most of us, most of our mothers, grandmothers, etc... 

 

Our society is a direct reflection of that symptom. What kind of 'civilization' would be created by adults who were babies of emotionally absent, depressed mothers who gave up breastfeeding and would lock the baby in a dark room alone to cry himself to sleep? And it's not even their fault! They did not know that they were depressed and disengaged. They did not have a healthy role models either! How were they supposed to know? It goes back countless generations of women giving birth in the middle of wars, plagues, droughts, floods, domestic violence - that list goes on and on. It was customary to arrange marriages, the girl might even not be of childbearing age and be given to her husband to another village where she didn't know anybody, where she would be a slave to him, to her mother-in-law, to the sisters of all his older brothers. In such environment, it's hard to relax and give birth gracefully...


As pregnancy activates our own birth trauma, it also activates ancestral memories. We have a lot to deal with, given the bloody history of humankind... Let's start talking about it, ladies!


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